For Spiritual Uplitment
Oh’ Parents take heed
‘How often do we hear that the son of so and so is taking drugs or is a drug merchant? Who is this so and so? Is it John, Harry or Devraj? No! No! It is Muhammad, the son of Ahmed. Allaahu Akbar! A Muslim? Yes! A Muslim! Why? What has gone wrong? Have they forgotten the Ta’leem (advice and teachings) of Nabi Muhammad (Sallallaahu Álaihi Wasallam)? Truly, beloved parents, we have deviated from the loving, caring beautiful advice and the guidance of Nabi (Sallallaahu Álaihi Wasallam).
The brunt of the blame of our children going astray, whether it is the taking of drugs, gambling, adultery, neglect in fulfilling the fundamentals of Deen, etc. falls on our (the parents’) heads. Firstly, how serious are we to ensure that our children are surrounded by an Islamic environment at home. A very casual look into our homes will reveal that pornographic material (obscene pictures of semi-naked men and women in magazines and newspapers) has infested our homes. The TV. And the VCR (which promotes immorality and Kufr beliefs) has been accepted by us without hesitation. We allow them to indoctrinate and corrupt our children’s minds.
Who does Muhammad Ibn Ahmed join? Are we making sure that our children are in good company or do we turn a blind eye to it, giving them their so-called ‘freedom’? Are his friends punctual on all their Salaat, or are they the ‘friends’ who take him ‘out’ on a Saturday night for a spin to ‘cool off’ from the week’s hard work and pressure? To top it all, what time does he return home? Definitely, a long way past 1:00 am. Now, when Muhammad comes home drunk, drugged or with AIDS, then we ask Moulana for a Taweez and we cry out in frustration that we don’t know what happened and what went wrong with my ‘innocent’ son/daughter.
We should ponder and take lesson on the loving and caring advice of Nabi (Sallallaahu Álaihi Wasallam) and see where we went wrong:-
Hadhrat Abu Huraira (RA) narrates that Nabi (Sallallaahu Álaihi Wasallam) said: ‘A person is on the Deen of his friend. So you should be careful and check whom one befriends’. (Mishkat)
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álaihi Wasallam) has mentioned that ‘command your children to perform Salaat when they are seven years old and beat them (concerning missing out of Salaat) when they are ten years old’. (Mishkat)
Nowadays, at the age of seven, instead of being punctual in their Salaat, children are punctual in watching the 7`O’clock show, the cartoons or even the soaps. We neglect our children to such an extent that instead of them becoming Huffaaz of the Qurãn Shareef, they are becoming memorizers of the latest top ten music hits.
Therefore, from a tender age we should instill the love of the Ahkaam of Allah Taála in their hearts. On one occasion, Nabi (Sallallaahu Álaihi Wasallam) said, ‘No father can bestow anything better on his children than to teach them good manners’. (Mishkat)
We should consider this and think how serious are we concerning the Akhlaaq (characters) of our children. Are we aiding our children to commit Zina by exposing them to filthy magazines, newspapers and the TV.? Allah Taála says, ‘O you who believe! Don’t let your wealth nor your children make you unmindful of the Zikr of Allah Taála. Those who so that, then they are the losers’. (Surah Munafiqoon).
Are we not acting contrary to the Qurãn Majeed by doing exactly what we are warned against. We all have been very neglectful of our duties as parents concerning the correct upbringing of our children. If we do not take this duty seriously, not only will our children go astray, but they will send us to the old age homes (as a token of discardment) in this world. As for the Hereafter, we may even land up in the fire for our neglect.
My beloved parents……
Please do not bring magazines and newspapers with obscene pictures into our homes.
Remove the TV., VCR and music cassettes – CD’s from our homes.
May Allah Taála guide us all on the straight path. Ameen.
Ml. M. Olgar