Marriage in Islam – if one chooses not to marry or is unable to get married.

Marriage in Islam –
if one chooses not to marry
or is unable to get married.


Marriage in Islam –
if one chooses not to marry
or is unable to get married.

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The first post on marriage covered the introduction to marriage and generally what Islam portrays regarding marriage.

From the topics mentioned, “If one chooses not to marry or is unable to get married” is the next topic to be discussed.

Islam is a flexible religion but has its boundaries; its flexibility allows one to adopt it as a way of life and implement its teachings into every situation; whereas its boundaries restrict man from becoming too engrossed into certain acts and therefore becoming extreme in following their desires. Flexibility and boundaries set by Islam have created a perfect balance for man to achieve good both in this world and the hereafter, it is a balance that allows man to be successful in both the worlds.

Marriage also has boundaries and flexibilities; it is a matter which has been regarded as half of one’s Imaan (religion). Marriage is taken seriously in Islam as it allows people to live in a clean and moral society where desires are fulfilled in a human and shameful manner. It is an act that increases the number of believers and will cause our beloved Prophet صلي الله عليه و سلم to be proud by having the largest number of believers.

The Prophet of Allah صلي الله عليه و سلم has clearly forbidden people from celibacy:

“There is no celibacy in Islam”

[Sahih al-Bukhari]

However, in life it is not always possible to adopt the Sunnah act of marriage. There come in life situations that restrict that do not allow one to get married.

Therefore, it is necessary to mention the ruling of marriage; is it Mustahab (desired/recommended), Sunnah (way of the Prophet صلي الله عليه و سلم, therefore encouraged), Wajib/Fardh (obligatory).

Similarly, there will be times when marriage will be ruled as Makrooh (disliked) or Haraam (forbidden).

At this time we will deal with those rulings that concern that person who chooses not to marry or does not have the means to.

According to Imams Abu Hanifah marriage is Sunnah and recommendatory. It is an act of worship and one should strive in fulfilling this act. However, if one is in a position where he cannot control his desires then it is Wajib (necessary) for such a person to get married as he will not be able to save himself from sinning.

However, a person is excused from marrying, so much so that he should refrain from it, if he does not possess the means of supporting his wife or the capability of fulfilling her rights.

The question remains for that person who wishes to marry but does not possess the means, what should he do? Hadhrat ‘Abdullah رضي الله عنه narrates that:

“We were with the Prophet صلي الله عليه و سلم while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. So Allah’s Apostle صلي الله عليه و سلم said, “O young people! Whoever amongst you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty, and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting is a shield for him (from desires).”

[Sahih al-Bukhari]

In this Hadeeth it is clearly mentioned that one who cannot marry should fast as the fasting will act as a shield for him from his desires. However, whilst doing this one should make an effort to resolve the matters that are stopping him from marrying.

As a final note, it should be remembered that not being financially able and being in a position to provide for one’s wife means the basic essentials that are necessary. Having an elegant and extravagant wedding and inviting people is not part of ‘essentials’ and is in actual fact totally discouraged and forbidden in Islam. However, in today’s society we see people going to the extent of taking out loans to organise a ‘wedding to remember.

Insha Allah this topic will be mentioned in later posts and how choosing the correct partner will save one from committing such a grave sin from the first day of such a blessed and auspicious act of worship.



May Allah give us all the courage and strength to save ourselves from the sins of desires and may He also give those people who are in need of marriage the means and a pious partner. Aameen.

4 thoughts on “Marriage in Islam – if one chooses not to marry or is unable to get married.

  1. i am a 47 year old divorced muslima–I want to remarry. My question is–what are the rules according to ISLAM on marrying at my age? My father is Christian–all my brothers are Christian–I have an 18 year old son who is Muslim. Do I have to have permission or any family present to get married again? what are rules i have to follow to meet a muslim man and accept marriage? I want to know the Islamic rules on this–not a cutural or traditional rule set by ppl in society. Thank you for a quick response–ZB

  2. In islam its not forbidden to remarry. Divorce is a very cursed act in islam, and if a person still gets alone due to divorce then she is allowed to re marry after a specific amount of time. i think its 90 days. and i Pray to Allah tha you get married this time to a muslim who is pious and a real muslim having control on his deads, so that he comes out to be a gud husband, one who will never leaves or decieve you in any time of need, One who knows that in presence of a wife having any woman / girl friend is a sin as tought in islam.

    ISLAM the Religion on Loyals and Truth.

    take care
    bye

  3. AoA,
    I am 31 years old and in search of a Sunni Muslim life partner. My mother and siblings have searched a lot for the match but everybody rejects me because my education is matriculation, heighten 5.8″ and my father is separated. Although I belong to a well educated family and middle upper class.

  4. AoA,
    I am 31 years old girl and in search of a Sunni Muslim life partner. My mother and siblings have searched a lot for the match but everybody rejects me because my education is matriculation, heighten 5.8″ and my father is separated. Although I belong to a well educated family and middle upper class

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